How to Love Yourself
An opinion piece by Yashi Gupta
Self love is a very controversial and frequently debated topic. People have a lot of questions about this topic and it is valid because every other video on our "for you page" is about this and everyone keeps preaching to us about this topic, but with very different pieces of advice. To understand this we should first clear up the definition of "love". Love can be romantic (most commonly thought of when the word comes up), it can be love for our family, or love/ care for our friends. These are a few accepted definitions of love, but love is something more, it is something you will be able to feel more when you start loving yourself. Now, someone could ask the question of "How do I exactly love myself?"
WELL...
Don't be afraid of being alone
If you are afraid of your own company, that means you can never love yourself. You should not always hope to have friends, family, your girlfriend/ boyfriend with you. You should have fun with yourself and understand yourself. Now, don’t cut these people out of your life and don't treat them badly, as these people will most probably be there to support you when you need them, but you have come on this planet once so, you need to learn how to live for yourself and love yourself. Try going on solo dates every month. During those try to have fun with yourself and pursue your hobbies. Doing this will help you become one with yourself and fall in love with yourself. Once you are not afraid of being by yourself and feel comfortable, then you can easily fall in love with yourself.
Be Yourself
Identity is something we all have and we have the right to flaunt it so, BE YOURSELF. This is really important to fall in love with yourself. Most of you reading this will feel like something that you do might be embarrassing or you might think you will get judged about what you do. First of all the people who are judging you don’t know how to love themselves and they are just trying to feel better about themselves, and nobody’s perfect. So, BE YOURSELF; show off your quirkiness, your true side, and most of all show off what makes you, YOU. When you do this you will instantly have a deeper connection with yourself, and eventually fall in love with yourself.
LASTLY...
Be a good person
Loving yourself isn’t all about you, it is about others too. If you are not a good person deep down, then you can’t love yourself. Just try to think about it. Would you like to love someone who is a bad person? Your answer would most probably be NO. I would agree with you. The same principle applies to self-love too. If you are a good person deep down to both yourself and others then that's all you need. But, you don’t need to please others too much, the most important things is that YOU love YOURSELF throughout YOUR LIFE!
All of this might be too much to take in so I am going to sum it all up for you. First and foremost to love yourself you need to not be afraid of being alone. Once you master that learn how to be yourself and be the best version of yourself. Last but not least, be a good person both to others and yourself.
Even with all these steps to self love, the concept is very subjective so, I will leave it up to you and your discretion to define and learn what self love exactly is!
